People expect a degree of anonymity in a big church. So if they feel a little lonely, that’s okay. They put on their big crowd face and soldier on.
But in a small church, it’s very different.
Walking into a small church for the first time can be an act of great vulnerability. They know there won’t be anywhere to hide.
People come to a small church hoping for personal connection. They often want it so badly that they feel frightened and exposed by the mere fact of driving into the parking lot.
So when someone feels ignored in a big church, it’s pretty bad. But when someone feels ignored in a small church, it can be downright brutal, even scarring to their heart and their spirit.
An unfriendly small church can be a dangerous thing.